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RESPONSIBILITY “DRAW WHAT YOU SEE, NOT WHAT YOU THINK YOU SEE” - Bob Roper, my art master. Funny word this; in current use it often suggests fault (such a group has claimed responsibility for ... - should we say irresponsibility in this case?) It means having the ability to respond. We live in a society which supports the belief that what happens to us influences the way we lead our lives, but not that the way we lead our lives influences what happens to us. The most we can expect if our faith supports the notion is that “our reward may be in heaven” - not now. The truth is that everything we do has a consequence or a payoff and we do things for what we believe will be the results we need. The difference between those of us who feel we are being genuinely selfless and those who know they get a kick out of it is that the second lot are aware of it! The next thing we have to deal with is that if we are in charge of our lives(and responsible for ourselves) that means things we’re responsible for altering things we don’t like as well as taking credit for the things that work in our lives. So we realise we have the power to change. We are responsible for our relationships with those around us. There is no opportunity to blame any longer as we are responsible for our own reactions and feelings in all situations (including being gentle with ourselves while we still leap to blame someone who has ‘hurt’ us ... ) and there is no place for guilt. Remember everyone always does their best. Guilt appears to be judging the way we are leading our lives by someone else’s standards - when our own are perfectly good in their own right and more appropriate to our wishes in our lives. (The Inner Critic doesn’t share our ideas or tastes and will always point out how we could have done something differently, that’s its job and we don’t need to act on any of its advice we don’t agree with upon consideration, or feel bad if we don’t.) | ||
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CATHERINE HOLLAND Tel: 0701 7415310 Email: catherine@catherineholland.co.uk | |
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